Tuesday, February 9, 2016

CROWN OF GREY

when I was a little girl
I wanted to be a Barbie doll
didn't we all?

Over the years, I grew into a 1970 full fledged bell-bottomed, halter-topped
hipster hippie chick who never wanted to get married, have kids, eat meat, do drugs,
drink or smoke or do one single fake thing
E.V.E.R.
quite the contrast from the Barbie doll phase

as I got older I imagined that some day I
M.I.G.H.T.
consider
coloring my hair and maybe doing a little something to my wrinkling face
when the time and budget allowed

and then
I turned 55

 I reverted back to my 1970 self with my hipster 15 year old hippie chick mentality
(with the exception of  3 kids+ steak on the grill often+wine OFTEN)

I promised myself
no dying or cutting of hair
no cutting of face or neck


this is when I realized the ones I admired the most
had crowns of grey

my very great grandmother's hair was always in a bun
but I sometimes sat at her dressing table and watched as she let it down and 
brushed it with her horned soft bristle brush
it was to the small of her back...silver and wavy

my mother turned 82 this December...her hair turned grey many years ago and it is very long also

I'm not sure what gave me the peace to just
 let it be
to just let things be and occur as they would and will

but I have that peace
for my daughters, I want to be the kind of mother that doesn't try too hard 
to hang on to fleeting beauty because it will part...no matter what I do


and what better example is this little beauty...I have a feeling that this is exactly what Betty 
will look like when she's 92 

I delight to wonder 
what things in her life will turn her hair the most glorious color of grey
as my grandmother told me all of her life
beauty
is what you are on the inside








8 comments:

White Lace and Promises said...

Oh yeah! I lived on the edge with the bell bottoms and the free expression. It all felt very romantic. I just a little to scared to brave it all. I still color but it's getting more difficult to maintain with the cost of living higher and the less money to live on. You are beautiful and if you age in the way of your grandmother, Wow! She is gorgeous!

Karena Albert said...

A beautiful feature about beauty and aging, Gina! I love others with their gorgeous "silver crowns" and one day I will go down that road!

xoxo
Karena
The Arts by Karena

Down On The Farm said...

Beautiful post and I agree with you completely . . . but I'm still gonna dye my hair a few more years :0!!! But, that said, growing old gracefully is a classy way to live! Blessings from Missouri!!!

Heather @ new house new home said...

I'm turning 60 at the end of the month! And yesterday I found out I need bifocals. Slowly I'm coming to the realization that being a mature woman is a gift that we should appreciate. The knowledge, the skills, the time that I have now are much more valuable than the fleeting beauty of my 30's. I wouldn't trade it for the world. This is the best time of our lives. I say embrace the gray (although I have to be honest and say I'm not there yet!).

At Rivercrest Cottage said...

Beautifully said. And beautifully combed. Sometimes I think it would be great to go back to 1970 and be 20 again, but then I come to my senses when I remember all those years I would never want to live through again. Thanks for the trip down memory lane.

Tina@WhatWeKeep said...

I loved this post, Gina. My Mamaw had beautiful long silver hair...it must have been her Cherokee blood. I hope, hope, hope I have that shade of silver hair when my crown comes in! I loved when she took it down from her bun and brushed it out. I loved it even more when I got to help wash it and comb it out. I told her she looked like a magical witch which I don't think went over very well but I was totally mesmerized by it. My mother kept me in a pixie when I was little so you can imagine my fascination! LOL
Love that precious photo of Betty. And of our Gina Bobina, the hippie chick!
xoxo, T.

Debbie@Mountain Breaths said...

Great post! I'm 57 and loving every minute of it. Although I still feel (and act) 20 at times.

I love seeing pictures of your mom :-)

handmade by amalia said...

You look lovely in the photo, Gina. It suits you. And what a beautiful family you have.
Amalia
xo